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Thursday, 10 September 2009

montessori girl

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What is your Child's Learning Talent?</a><br>
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Thursday, 21 May 2009

Gonna work in Germany!!

Monday, 18 May 2009

What are best friends for?

How does a friend make it up to your list of best friends?
It seems that the only best friends that I have are those that I survived the crazy school years. The ones that I can trust wholeheartedly, jabber non-stop on the phone, searched alongside with me through the identity crisis, the first time i fell in and out of love and are comforted simply because we know that we will always be there to hold each other hands no matter what happens. As I grow older it seems that best friends are the ones i carried from the past. And it means more with the years of friendship.
What does a best friend mean to you?
That no matter when, no matter where, we can still count on each other. That we care. That we are still part of each other's lives.
When does a best friend becomes simply just a friend?
It is when one day I realised that I mean just a friend to them. When they no longer call. When they no longer meet for coffee, meals. When I didnt want to cry to them at the lowest point of my life. When it comes to the most important event of their lives, it didnt matter that I was left out of their joy. Today I realised.

Tuesday, 03 March 2009

Spooked

Someone followed us this morning.
I saw this guy waiting below our block when we got out of the lift and made our way to sunshine's school as usual. We hurried through the usual route and while we paused to cross the road. I noticed he was beside us, waiting to cross as well. I didn't think much of it. I was talking to sunshine, and continued to hurry along. I am usually a brisk walker, so i think he fell behind. When I suddenly stopped to talk to my mum who was on her way to the market as well, he was right behind me. The path was narrow - only wide enough for two. He came very close to brushing against me and continued on. My mum stopped me and asked if i know this guy, as he appears to be following very closely to us. I said no. We watched from behind, pretending to be waiting at the road for someone. he slowed down and then stopped.He turned back to look at us. But we still pretended to be waiting, looking around. He pretended to wait for a while, and then he continued on to the bridge. Just as he reached the top, he turned back and took another look at us. I caught that. I was really spooked, and there was no way I was going to take the usual route. We took a cab.
Now I'm still spooked. I am exploring all possibilities why he could be following me. He plan to kidnap sunshine, thieve, molest, or just a PI from my ex-husband? He was walking so closely behind me, he cant possibly be a PI. So possibly the first three possibilities. Mum said he could have been following us for a while now since he was waiting at our block. No matter, I have established that he was intentionally following me. And he is aware that we are alerted as well. I think I'll make a police report tonight.

Saturday, 21 February 2009

fairy tale for you?

I recalled this scene in Sex and the city movie where Carrie was reading Cinderella to Charlotte's daughter- Lily, before interrupting the story to inform her that fairy tales don't always come true, and princesses aren't always rescued.
How relevant are fairy tales today?

They used to be so beautiful when we were young - the perfect prince, the romance and the happily ever after. The world was a whole lot simpler before we grew up. Perhaps growing up in the 21st century has something to do with that. But of course we know today that fairy tales do not come true. There is no one right destined person out there to complete you, few of us may have the chance to experience romance that sweep us off our feet and happily ever after is too easy for a lifetime of marriage - if we dont opt for divorce first. Reality does bite.
Call me cynical. Expectations of such love instilled in us are most often than not unrealistic. But we carry them throughout our life, hoping that one day it will happen for us too. We built up hopes and then resigned to disappointments.
The point that Carrie made so frankly to Lily was important. The dose of reality. The child has to come to understand that fairy tales are just that - a fairy tale. Just as she will come to know that Santa does not exist.
I see the purpose of the fairy tales is to have us believe in love. And despite what I've been through, I do believe in love, and I believe sunshine will too. But no longer how love was painted in them.